Dear Rebbetzin Feige, I'm a single Jewish 30-something woman looking for my soul mate and for the life of me I cannot find a solid Jewish mensch who, I hate to say it, is emotionally mature, ambitious, ready to settle down and commit to building a loving marriage.Someone who can handle a smart, Jewish woman like me.Modern novels, movies, magazines, and television programs which fantasize and glorify the notion of “romantic love” are describing a type of ideal relationship that may exist in literary form or in the poetic imagination, but which bears very little resemblance to what love is all about in the everyday world of real life.People who read love stories or watch television programs should realize that while courtship, chivalry, romance and passion do play their separate and respective roles in the dramatic awakening and eventual attainment of satisfaction in love, these are all elements in a process, but they do not by any means add up to the whole of the love experience.Nor is romantic love an end in itself, so that it cannot and should not be accepted in defense of any type of behavior in any male-female relationship which is less than a properly controlled one.Such explanations as “We couldn’t help ourselves, we just fell in love”, or “we didn’t realize what was happening” are excuses, not reasons, because people usually do realize very well indeed, what is happening; they all too often try to convince themselves that certain forms of intimacy are justified because the two individuals concerned happen to be truly in love.
Dear Reader, Your pain and frustration are totally understandable. Your longing to find an appropriate mate is a legitimate desire and a worthy pursuit.Messianic Connections has thousands of Messianic Jewish singles and Christian singles who are believers in Yeshua, the Messiah, and who are interested in Messianic Judaism and YHWH.Messianic Jews and Christians alike come to this site to find love, romance and friendships with like-minded singles.For whatever it is worth, not that it is of any consolation, there are many women out there who find themselves in the same situation. I would like to offer several points for your consideration.As important and vital as marriage is, the primary relationship in our lives is the one with the Master of the Universe, the Creator of all life, including our own. To the extent that we develop a meaningful relationship with God, we are less vulnerable as singles.